You cannot "sign away" your parental rights in Virginia. You should consult reputable local counsel to enforce the provisions of your Child Support Order and discuss amending it. You could also discuss an Order changing the terms of your current Custody and Visitation Order to reflect the change in the tax dependency exemption. Good luck.
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