I am dating a 22 year old for almost a year and I'm now 17 and we would like to try and move forward and tell my parents so we can have an open relationship but I dont know if my parent can do anything to stop us
If you are 17. 17 is the age of consent in Illinois. You can keep dating. There is no criminal offense here.
Listen to the information given by the other attorney here. The age of consent in Illinois is 17.
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The age of consent in Illinois is 17. That is not the end of your question, though. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_the_United_States#Illinois
If your parents want you to stop, though, it would be a good idea for both of you.
Dating is not regulated by law. Sexual conduct is.
- Sexting with a minor (<18) = big problem
- Images of minor (<18) that are sexually explicit = big problem
- Holding hands = not a problem
- Going to movies or out to eat or on a picnic = not a problem
- Sneaking out with minor in violation of parents’ wishes = problem
- Kissing (lip to lip - no private parts) = not a problem
- Touching private parts (either party, even through clothes) = big problem
A person becomes an adult at the age of majority, which In most states is 18. Exceptions are Alabama & Nebraska (19), and District of Columbia & Mississippi (21). Until then, the parents pretty much control their life, including whom they date. If the parents wish, they can report "contributing to the delinquency of a minor" if someone interferes with their control. After reaching the age of majority, the new adult can date anyone, leave home against their parent's wishes, live where they want, associate with anybody they wish, pay their own bills and bail themselves out of jail.
Dating a minor UNDER the age of consent -- without sexual contact -- is not illegal as long as the parents or guardians are OK with it. If they are not, the parents or guardians could file police reports that result in charges of "Contributing to the delinquency of a minor" or "Interference with Custody" or something else that might be appropriate in that particular state. Likewise, dating a minor who is OVER the age of consent -- with or without sexual contact -- is not illegal as long as the parents or guardians are OK with it. Legal does not mean wise.
Even with the best of intentions otherwise, dating relationships often become sexual relationships. If sexual contact is involved, the ages of the couple, the nature of the sexual contact, whether it was consensual or not, when it took place, and the state in which it took place would be important to know. Their particular state may or may not have specific laws that apply to the relationship.
If sexually suggestive photos of a person under 18 are taken and/or shared (sexting), federal laws regarding production, distribution, and possession of child pornography come into play. There may also be state laws prohibiting the action. These can charges carry lengthy prison sentences. Wisconsin’s law carries a mandatory minimum prison sentence.
In general, to be completely safe, adults should not "date" children.
In Wisconsin, a person is considered an adult at the age of 18 for purposes of being a victim and at the age of 17 for purposes of being a criminal. Thus, two 17-year-olds can both be charged, as adults, with having sexual intercourse with a child.
Much of above copied from responses by Atty. Gary Ilmanen of California because I think he stated it well and I agree with it.
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You are at the age of consent in Illinois at 17 for any consensual sexual activity unless that 22 year old holds a position of public trust over you.
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