Do not negotiate with your husband. You must get in with a divorce attorney for this. He does not get to decide what you need or get. The income he gets is all marital as is all the marital assets. An online forum is not the place for this type of advice. You will do yourself a great injustice if you do not hire a lawyer with expertise in maintenance and divorce. Your husband has already violated your trust. Why would he be fair?
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There is no way to advise you in this simple Q&A forum. Hire a lawyer who will be able to look into your needs and finances in depth. Do not let your husband tell you what you need. Let your lawyer help you decide what is fair. You are fortunate that there re many good lawyers in your are. Speak to several. Hie the one you like best.
You are entitled to maintenance (that's what alimony is now called.) It sounds like you've committed 32 years to being a homemaker. That's admirable and you deserve appropriate compensation. There are many factors a court takes into consideration when deciding how much maintenance to award and for how long, including lifestyle and the parties' financial situations. You've taken the first step by seeking out additional information; the second step is hiring a very good family law attorney who can best represent your interests. Thank you.
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