The complaint would be against the opposing attorney. For starters, the attorney violated Rule 1.7 Conflict of Interest. She represented my former friends and she herself is someone I knew, have been to her home for dinner, etc... and then she turns around and files cases against me because our mutual friends were mad. She send a threatening letter to me saying she will find a way to get a Restraining Order against me. And so she filed the papers with false criminal accusations (breaking Rule 4.1) and she told the Judge false info. not related to situation (breaking Rule 3.5) to throw off the track of the case. She also aided and abetted with mutual friends in other cruel and hateful actions outside of their mis-use of the legal system and my civil rights.A Restraining Order was not granted. They dropped this via Mediation but new information has been discovered. However, the false information she told the Judge was in Small Claims Court when I asked about money owed me...which started their anger....initiating the threatening letter.
The only part of this I am going to address is the general concept of conflict of interest. Lawyers, as a general principle, have a duty of undivided loyalty to their client. But merely knowing, or even having a friendly relationship with the opponent in a dispute, is generally not enough to constitute a conflict of interest. Generally speaking the lawyer must have advised or represented the opponent in the same or a substantially related dispute. One part of the idea is, you can't turn around and use information obtained from your former client to the disadvantage of the former client. Another part of the idea is, you can't represent both sides in the same or substantially related disputes. What you wrote above doesn't suggest that the lawyer with whom you have a beef ever represented you, so my question to you would be, if the lawyer never represented you, where's the conflict?
Other lawyers may want to address other parts of your question; I just wanted to address the conflict-of-interest issue. Not legal advice as I don't practice law in North Carolina. It's just my two cents in light of general principles of law. Consult North Carolina counsel to obtain legal advice. I practice in Vermont ONLY.
You can file a complaint, but be aware that complaints against the opposition are taken with a huge grain af salt.
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I commend you for actually looking up the rules and trying to match the conduct with the rule, most people who consider, let alone file, a grievance never do so. However, as already explained, the situation you describe does not appear to be a conflict of interest. The other issues are more likely advocacy, not violations. Court is where you hash out those issues, not in a bar compliant after the fact. Since you are filing against opposing counsel, it is unlikely the state bar would do anything.
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