After a consultation with an attorney, I am sure your attorney will write such a letter on your behalf provided, of course, it's not a "crackpot decision." Use the "Find a Lawyer" function here on Avvo to locate an attorney near you. You might want to pick an older attorney, as opposed to a younger one -- perhaps one that lives in a retirement community.
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I won't assume that there would be any confusion or conflict caused by your plans, but I presume that your children are adults and that this is an estate planning measure more than a family law one.
You are entitled to make crackpot decisions-- despite what the TV and movies may seem to say. Unless there is indue influence/fraud by a brand new partner in the scene-- one who is draining your assets-- you don't have to answer to your children when you decide to Leisure World or Sun City.
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