Formally, you must file a Notice of Appearance with the court, serve a copy on the opposing attorney and file an affidavit of service with the court that same has been served on the attorney. Some information on divorce cases may be found here: http://www.nycourts.gov/divorce/index.shtml. You're best advised to schedule a consultation with a NYC Divorce attorney.
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You need to serve an Answer and you should hire a matrimonial lawyer.
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Contacting the attorney alone is not a response. You will need to file a Notice of Appearance with the court and serve the Notice on your wife's attorney. Here is sample http://www.nycourts.gov/courts/6jd/forms/SRForms/otherfms_ntcappanddemand.pdf.
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You should hire an attorney to file a Notice of Appearance - and move through the process.
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Telephone call won't do it. You need to file a notice of appearance with the court and send that to your wife's attorney. If you were served with just a summon with notice and no complaint you should demand the complaint. If you were served with the complaint you need to answer. You would best be served by retaining the services of an experienced divorce attorney.
Get a lawyer fast. The summons with notice must be responded through the opponent's counsel. It should be challenged because you don't want to lose most of what you own.
Be smart. Watch out. Good luck.
You need to file a "Notice of Appearance" with the court and affirm that you served that Notice on the other lawyer. Preserve your rights by filing your appearance with the court but don't be afraid to see whether the lawyer might be drafting a proposal to resolve the case. You should hire a lawyer - if you know that the other lawyer is drafting an agreement, tell that to whomever you hire.
You should contact an attorney to enter their notice of appearance and affirm with the court that you were served. The attorney can also assist you with the proposal and the process of the divorce to ensure your rights are protected.