Have you consulted with any attorneys yet? if so, and you can't work out a payment plan then you should apply for a public defender.Ask a similar question
You definately need an atttorney. As I am sure you are aware, a conviction for domestic violence could easily end your military carreer. If you truely cannot afford to hire contact the court as soon as possible and find out their process for requesting appointed counsel. Assuming it is a misdemeanor I doubt they will appoint a public defender but have a list of private attorneys who accept appointments. DO NOT talk about the facts with anyone but your lawyer. Your husband's attitude is helpful but will not be the deciding factor.
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