Don't sign anything. Call around and get yourself a consultation with an experienced family law attorney ASAP. Have the attorney review anything before you sign it.
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It's not clear what it is you are being asked to sign. California is a no-fault state. He does not need your consent or agreement to get a divorce. He may be asking you to sign the Acknowledgement of Receipt of the divorce papers. Signing that document just means you are acknowledging that you received the documents; it does not mean you agree or that you are committing to anything. You say you don't want the divorce, but what it sounds like is that you're fine with a divorce or separation as long as you receive some kind of financial support. You are welcome to fax the documents to my office. I can look them over for you and clarify for you what it is that has been served. I offer a free initial consultation. My fax is (888) 411-9036.
You might want to consider calling an attorney willing to provide you with a free consultation. Also, if looking on the internet, there are attorneys who provide legal coaching services for individuals who can't afford to hire an attorney to r epresent them. In such cases, there is no need to limit your search to your area--as any attorney in California who provides coaching services can assist you.
It sounds like you are confused and need someone willing to listen and put you in the right direction.
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