You can leave the home with your children, however, it is not recommended unless there is some reason you or your children are at risk of harm. If you simply leave the house with the children because you don't want to live there anymore, your husband can ask the Court to order you to return the children to the home. This could result in a protracted custody dispute if your husband has designs of obtaining custody of the children. You should definitely consult with an experienced matrimonial attorney before taking any action.
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Yes you can do this. Without a court order to the contrary, both parents in a marriage have custody of the children.
However, if there is no significant risk of physical and/or emotional harm to you or the children you should not leave the home. If your husband is going to seek custody or challenge your rights to make this process difficult for you, he could seek and could get a court order directing you to return the children to the home.
Questions you should ask yourself - Do I want to separate or divorce? Am I or my children at risk staying with my husband?
If the answers are yes, then you could initiate a court proceeding for divorce and ask the court to remove your husband from the home.
This is a complicated and often very contentious legal process and you should consult with an experienced lawyer in the field.