Contact a landlord tenant lawyer. Bring your order of protection to an attorney to review if it contains a stay away provision.
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The police may also arrest your son for violating the Order of Protection.
Be certain that the thirty day notice is correct, as this form of notice is most commonly used by a landlord in terminating a month to month tenancy in NYC, but is not necessarily the correct notice for a parent to use as a predicate to seeking the court's judgment to "evict" a family member from the household. A thirty day notice typically requires that the "petitioner" prove the existence of a landlord and tenant relationship, and parents do not often charge their live-at-home children "rent."
Hire an attorney.
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