You will need to have a consultation with a family law attorney who knows something about the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act. The act contains provisions on how to divorce someone who is in the military and also has provisions for dealing with support for the family. It is complicated and you are not likely to be able to do it on your own. Servicemembers have special protections when they are stationed overseas but their are also provisions to protect the family.
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It would be hard to get a restraining order against him since he is currently stationed overseas. Restraining orders take a current incident of abuse to get temporary orders.
That does not mean you cannot get restraining orders in the future.
You need to start your case by filing a Petition for dissolution and having him served. Since he is in the military the court will have to appoint an attorney to represent him to make sure he understands that a dissolution has been filed.
You would then seek to secure court orders for custody and support issues.
You should seriously talk with a family law attorney to discuss your options. Him being in the military does create some unique problems for your case that can be easily handled.
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