So — I have a DV situation with the father of my child i was with only for a few months before i left him. The judge granted that he does not know where i live so he gets to take my son for a few hours every few days. We exchange at a Cafe. The issue is that he is trying to sway custody I believe… I switched the sheriff's dept as per their suggestion because -- 1. He was yanking my son from my arms. When I told him to take him gently, he accused me of withholding my son and went out on the street and called the sheriff, I had no idea where he went. We are supposed to exchange in the cafe not on the street. I talked to them after and they figured out that he was trying to flip it to get me in trouble. 2. The sheriffs suggested I exchange in the stroller, So I switched to the stroller and then he is now yanking the stroller. 3. What else could I then do? So I started exchanging at the Sheriffs dept and now he's accusing me of breaking the court order. I don't know what to do :( .
I am wondering if I continue to exchange at the Sheriffs without changing the order if I will get in trouble? I don't have an attorney now.
Putting the best light on it, perhaps he is defensive when he thinks you're telling him what to do so he grabs; maybe kindly suggest that the baby needs a smooth transition so he needs to not yank and remind him that you have no issues with him building a relationship with the child. All you can do is control your own behavior so examine what you're doing - if anything - to get this reaction. I'm not saying it's your fault - I'm just saying that maybe you can get him to feel more comfortable. Be aware that he will be able to have more time (unless he messes up) and eventual over-nights.
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