I agree that you will need experienced legal counsel to work through this. You have been granted some rights by the Court, which it appears your wife is not recognizing. An attorney can help you work through these issues with your wife, and make sure you are not getting the short end of the stick. Best of luck to you.
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You need to engage a local family law attorney. Without seeing the judges order, your question cannot be properly answered. Don't waste any more time getting representation.
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