Aug. of '11, my ex was ordered to pay $5,000 for my half of the property value of the land we owned. He has not done this to date and says that he can't afford to pay me and can't get a loan. He has paid for his new wife's nursing school (she just recently completed her 1 yr course). He is paying back child support $25 each pay period by payroll deduction. While the divorce was pending, I had to borrow money to buy bedroom furniture for myself & my 5 year old daughter. We moved in with my mother as I did not have a job. I was a stay-at-home mom (at his request) following the birth of our daughter. I did finally get a part-time job. Also had to borrow money to pay my lawyer. Still owe $3,000 to friends for divorce & furniture which I have been unable to pay.