This is not really a child custody questions. If she is unwilling to give you power of attorney over the child, the Father would have the first right to have custody over the child. Please consult with a local family law attorney because there are no easy answers here. You could file a third party custody action but you would have to prove that both the Father and the mother are unfit parents if the Father does not agree -- very difficult to accomplish.
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