My husband owns a business, and I stay home and take care of our 2 year old. He controls all the finances and refuses to let me have any access or input on anything. If I need to buy something I have to beg him for money and then give him receipts. I want a divorce, but he has said that if I do that, he will take my daughter, phone, car, basically everything...along with the fact that I can't pay a lawyer because he controls it all. These are all things we had and bought after getting married. Can he do that? Can he really take everything from me and make me leave? I desperately need help ASAP.
I would suggest that you do not allow your husband to (continue to) bully you and you should not take legal advice from him. You need to sit down with a good divorce lawyer and explain your circumstances to determine how best to proceed. MANY divorce lawyers do not charge for an initial consultation. AVVO has a find a lawyer feature you can use to review a lawyer's profile, reviews and other information before you even contact them.
I am a lawyer, but not a divorce lawyer. When I went through MY divorce, many years ago, my ex wife told me the same things that you are now being told. I got a very good divorce lawyer and NONE of what she told me ended up happening. I was able to start over and my life today is SO much better than it was. I hope that the same will be true for you. The first step is to seek professional advice.
P.S. I will also say that I benefited a great deal from divorce recovery workshops. That may be a ways off for you, at this point. But I highly commend them to you. Best wishes and good luck!
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Interview several lawyers. I am sure you will find several who will represent you. Select a lawyer who will fight for you.
I am licensed to practice law in Michigan and Virginia and regularly handle cases of this sort. My answering your question does not establish an attorney-client relationship. You should consult a lawyer so you can tell the lawyer the entire situation and get legal advice that is precisely tailored to your case.
Yes, you DEFINITELY need help with this controlling bully. Meet with an attorney that has extensive experience dealing with these kind of situations. The judge will not permit the bully to do the things he's threatened to do. In situations like yours, judges often order the other spouse to pay the attorney fees to both of you.
Meet with an experienced family law attorney very soon and keep your meeting very confidential. Change all your passwords so he's not able to see your emails or phone call log.
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Mr. Kronchek is correct, and you are the victim of domestic abuse, even if it is not physical. Schedule an appointment with an experienced family law attorney who will fight on your behalf and seek attorney fees from your husband. Once a case is filed, he will quickly learn that he is no longer in control. The judge and Michigan law will control, and he will not be taking anything away from you.
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