I know financially times are tight; however, you need to consult with a family law attorney immediately to be advised. If the Order indicates you share legal custody, you need to have access to the insurance cards. Also, with shared legal custody, you and your ex wife need to agree upon his medical treatment and, more than likely, proceed with medical care if the condition is not resolving itself and the ER is not able to manage his condition/care. If you and your ex wife cannot agree on the course of treatment, yet the condition requires treatment, you may need to go before a Judge, by filing the appropriate paperwork, to request the Judge issue an Order addressing your son's future medical treatment. As indicated, you need to consult with a family law attorney to be advised as to how to proceed, including PA law and procedure, and documents to file moving forward.
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