What I suggest that you do in this instance is to hire an immigration attorney, have him/her dictate to you a letter addressed to USCIS in which you are WITHDRAWING your Form I-130 Petition for Alien Relative (don't give any reason), effective immediately, and have your attorney appear at the interview in your place & have him hand out that letter to the interviewing officer. That will immediately close the case. There will be no questions asked and you'll be immediately off the hook. (I've been in this situation many times over my 19 years of practice, don't worry, it'll be OKAY.)
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