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You can date but you can't have sex because the age of consent in NY is 17.
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A person engaging in "sexual conduct" (which includes no intercourse activity) with someone who is incapable of consent (i.e. is under 17 y.o), is committing an A misdemeanor, and there are NO defenses.
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