AVVO is a good resource for finding quality attorneys practicing in many field of law including divorce. Based upon what you posted, you very much need to be tslking to qualified divorce attorneys in your area. I am going to edit your wuestion's practice area to help you out a bit. Good luck.
Contact the Dauphin County Bar Association. They have a good lawyer referral program.
If you would like a referral to a Dauphin County Bar Association member lawyer, call the Bar Association headquarters at (717) 232-7536 from 9:00 a.m. to 12 noon, and 1:30 p.m. to 4:30 p.m. Monday through Friday and ask for the Lawyer Referral Service.
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