New York does NOT yet have a no fault divorce law. Any divorce must be commenced with proper service of process.
And if you have children, custody and child support will be among the issues that must be resolved.
The jurisdiction in which you should file for a divorce is governed by the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act. It depends on where the minor children have been living for the six months immediately prior to filing the action for dissolution of marriage. If the children have been living with your wife in Florida, you should file in the county in Florida in which your wife and the children have been living and you should serve her. If they have been living with you for the past 6 months, then NY law applies. As I am a Florida lawyer and not a NY lawyer, I cannot answer your question about service for NY cases.
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New York legislature has passed a new no-fault divorce law. It has yet to be signed into law by the governor, but will be any day now. This is going to help a lot of people get out of failed marriages without having to allege fault grounds.
You can still file for divorce under abandonment.