This is a jurisdiction issue. It sounds like everyone started in Missouri and no one is left in Missouri. I think you may be able to file in Arizona however jurisdiction may be challenged due to the fact that the children live in Iowa. Often times the courts will favor jurisdiction where the children reside for convenience purposes. It might be best for you to file in Iowa so you do not waste the time or expense in a jurisdiction fight.
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