Is it anything i can do she dont want to be bothered she kept all text messages he sent her he just down her
While there is no age when a child can decide whether or not to exercise visitation with a parent, the older a child is the more likely the court is to take her reasons and feelings into account. You may wish to consider filing a petition to curtail his visitation and use the text messages as evidence as to why your daughter is unhappy with the terms of the current order.
Not exactly sure what the text messages say its not clear on the post here--that said, every 14 year old girl is stressed out with their father---does not mean the courts need to be involved. Best if you sit down with a local attorney to discuss and that attorney can tease out more relevant facts. Good luck to you.
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No matter the age of the child, if a parent is exercising his visitation in a way that harms the child, then the court could decide to modify the visitation. That can be more than adding or subtracting days. The court can decide, for example, that Dad shouldn't text daughter during your parenting time.
The real question - which isn't obvious from your post - is whether Dad is setting appropriate boundaries, though perhaps with poor language, (e.g. she has to manage her own school work) and your 14-year-old is resisting or whether Dad is being inappropriate or harassing her (e.g. she should get a job and not look to him for child support anymore).
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