After 4 weeks in the hospital my friend died, yesterday as I write. I had medical decision authority for him and I am comfortable with the decisions I made in conjunction with the staff of the hospital. He has no family in San Diego and is estranged from his mother in Illinois and left very specific and repeated instructions not to contact her. He also has a brother in Illinois. I know of no other family. I just found contact information for nhis mother and I'm about to notify her. I expect her to react with hysteria. I am I bound to not inform his mother? What about his brother? Since he lived with me, what can/should I do with his belongings?
I have the read this a few times because you talked about the brother and then you said “he lived with me”. Then I realized that “he” was the deceased—not the brother. I don’t think you have any duty to notify anyone. Unless those were the instructions, you don’t have to do so.
One reason you might wish to do so is that you probably don’t wish to pay for any final arrangements for the remains of his time on this plane. But again, I don’t think you have any legal duty to do anything further.
This is general advice. You are anonymous. If you PM me i won’t know what it’s about.
As agent under a advanced directive, unless there is a superseding writing contrary, you are responsible for post death arrangements. This includes who to involve in the services and arrangements and who not. If there is a trust or probate estate, you may need to notify family regarding assets, but not disposition of his remains.
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