I would not recommend leaving the state during this stage of your divorce proceedings. Not only will it likely emotionally affect your children, it is not the wisest move legally speaking.
The solution to your problem about finances is to file what is called a Request for Orders for child support and spousal support (or alimony), and attorney's fees so that you can retain competent legal counsel to assist you through this process.
If you have been a stay at home mom and housewife for the last 11 years, that is a very good fact in your favor--not only does that tell me that you likely have what is known as a "long term marriage" but that means that you were also likely the primary caretaker for the children.
Since child support is largely a function of the amount of time each parent spends with the children as well as the relative income of the parties, these are also good facts in your favor.
It seems to me that you need to begin educating yourself about the process, and most definitely speak to an experienced family law attorney who can guide you through the process to ensure you don't make an "mistakes" such as moving out of state (even temporarily)! :)
I have included links below which addresses some of the common questions and answers which often come up in divorce proceedings. Good luck.
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While it is certainly not "abandonment" if you follow through with your plan, it will leave the kids in their father's custody. Getting them to move out of state after the fact may prove to be more difficult that it is worth.
You should consider finding a different roommate candidate, one who is in the area. Then you have have joint custody, instead of leaving the children solely with their dad. You can also file a Request for Orders seeking child and spousal support -- and some help with legal fees, to boot.
The opening moves in a divorce often set the tone for the case that follows. Make sure that you have a plan and get some specific, personalized legal advice from an experienced, local Family Law attorney before committing to what could turn out to be a mistake of a plan.
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I really believe it would be far preferable if you filed a motion for temporary child and spousal support and a request for permission to move with the children and get the court approval first. If you move, then go back a month later, you may not get into court for several months and after the long passage of time, the court will probably not want the children to be uprooted from their present school and also friends, local activities, and present status of life. I believe you need to rethink your approach, otherwise, what you don’t want to happen may be out of your control at that point in time.
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