If you are otherwise eligible for adjustment of status, you should be able to have your case terminated or administratively closed, since you have a pending I-130 petition. Therefore, consult with experienced immigration lawyer about the process.
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You can not, and should not, contact ICE .... think of them as 'cops'.
If the NTA has been filed in court, only an Immigration Judge can give you permission to file the I-485 ... if you file w/o the judge's permission you will have wasted $1,070.
Find the money to hire a lawyer ... you should not try to 'play lawyer'.
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