Obviously there is a lot more to this situation than this forum would allow you to include. In addition, without seeing the agreement or knowing the background, it is impossible to provide a useful answer. The fact that you missed the clause, and your attorney did not adequately explain the agreement to you is probably not sufficient to allow you to strike or rescind. I would suggest discussing your concerns with your attorney, and if you do not receive satisfactory answers, have a different attorney review the agreement and discuss your options with you.
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Nobody sneaks anything into a stipulation of settlement. It behooves the person signing to read carefully that which is above his or her signature. The only way something is "snuck into" an agreement is if a signatory is either willfully or negligently ignorant.
I don't know the definitive answer to your public policy question, however, people terminate parental rights everyday, essentially forcing upon the child the condition that the child never see the natural parent. That is not void as against public policy. Similarly, restraining orders and stay away orders mandate no contact, often with members of ones own family. Those orders are not void, either. Now, when there is a consent Order that mandates no contact between adults in the same family, I am not sure how substantively different that is from a restraining order. Obviously they are quite different procedurally, however, the net effect is the same: no contact.
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