I am sorry that you are going through this, most courts look to the totality of the marital, the contributions the parties made during the marriage and yes the conduct of the parties during the marriage, so it is important, please work with a good local attny and he or she will protect your rights, take care.
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Well, there are some things that will most likely occur under this scenario. Family court professionals obviously do not champion abusive parents; whether that abuse is directed toward the other parent or the children. In your case, the child is so young, the therapy will not include him at first.
Under the scenario you depict, your lawyer could most likely secure court-mandated therapy to address the custody and parenting issues that will be part of your divorce. Parenting classes could also be ordered if some of your husband's abusive conduct directly impacts your son. All of this bodes ill; this will be a tough situation.
One reality that you need to embrace, however, is that no matter how bad a Husband, and now father, the man is, he is still going to get sufficient court-ordered contact with your son to influence his life. You can let this drive you nuts, or you can attempt to deal with it.
I recommend that you immediately hire two professionals: a good divorce lawyer [find one in your area on Avvo]; and a psychologist or therapist, for you, not for your case. As the primary care provider, you need to preserve your sanity.
Good luck with all of this...
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How you use the emotional issue is something that you discuss with your attorney.
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