I guess I am wondering why you are even bothering with a "rough" draft. No trust attorney (or I should say, I wouldn't) sign off on a trust drafted by a lay-person and in fact it will cost you more than if you simply had the attorney do the trust from scratch since the attorney will want to redo it anyway. (note, attorneys really don't do these from scratch).
Instead of wasting your time figuring all this out on your own, simply go sit down with a trust attorney, discuss with him your goals and desires, and work together with that attorney to find the BEST option.
I have only had one situation where the client simply gave absolute discretion to the trustee. As lawyers, we are always more comfortable when the answer is a little more black and white. The trustee may also appreciate more guidance as to what your intentions are. Having said that, your intent is what the trust is supposed to reflect. The answer in your case may be completely different than another person's. That is one of the things that keeps our work interesting. Every situation is different. If there was a one-size-fits-all solution, you would not need an attorney at all. You could simply buy the form from the office supply.
You know your children. You know who you want to be in charge of things. Is it going to help either party to have you provide a strong set of guidelines, or is it going to be better if you just tell the trustee to do what he/she sees fit? The answer can be different, depending on the time period. Maybe you give the trustee complete discretion while the children are minors, but give more detailed direction for once they graduate from high school or college. I have seen it done both ways.
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I've been answering avvo questions in reverse order, starting with the most recent and working back in time. I know see more about what you're dealing with than I did a few minutes ago when I answered your subsequent post.
I'm sorry to hear about your circumstances. My father just died 6 months ago; and I don't wish that on anyone at any age. So, I really hope that your health situation resolves. Medical science has really come a long way; and continues to do so. Stay positive and do what you have to do.
Now, for your trust situation, I recommend setting as much of a detailed standard as you can. In a way, you can use the trust agreement as a way of parenting even when you're not there. You can use some carrot and stick guidelines like "X amount of money upon graduation for 3.0 GPA; Y amount for 3.5..." etc. Then you can incentivize them to go to college or for keeping a full time job for certain periods of time, etc. Let your mind wander a little bit on some of these issues. You might surprise yourself with some of the ideas that you come up with.
Hang in there and fight the good fight. And let me compliment you for being a such a caring parent.
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