You need to retain an attorney to represent you. Be sure to take copies of the documents you were served with to your first meeting. I would start by talking with a family law attorney in TN but it may be necessary for you to retain counsel in CA. If you would like to discuss further, please call my office at 800-637-2209 to schedule a free consultation.
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Not being licensed in California, I'm not sure of how their law works. If she has hired a lawyer, you will likely need to fight this in California. If she has just done this on her own, there's a chance she has messed somethgin up and you could get it dismissed in CA and then you could file in TN. If this were a TN case, I'd feel comfortable telling you it doesn't sound like a difficult case at all. Find an expereicned CA family lawyer who can help you out. If it somehow gets sent back to TN (doubtful) consult with a TN lawyer (or best of both worlds try to find somone licensed in bioth states)
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