I have to disagree somewhat with my colleagues here. The Colorado Court of Appeals, in its 2007 opinion in Marriage of DePalma, 176 P.3d 829, held that the military member being deployed in that case could designate his new wife to look after the children from his previous marriage during his parenting time while he was deployed overseas. That was a fact specific decision, so it cannot be used for the proposition that any military parent being deployed can designate his/her new spouse to care for the children in the military member's absence. The Court of Appeals made a point of noting that this decision did not give parental rights of any kind to the stepparent. It just empowered the military parent to decide who would care for his children during his parenting time while he was deployed. So, you can file a motion with the court asking for the same treatment, and the ultimate result will depend on the evidence the court hears about who you people are and what is in the children's best interests. It would be wise to be represented in that process by a competent family law attorney
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No. Your new wife is the step-mother and has no legal rights to have parenting time with the children. Only natural parents or adoptive parents have the rights to parenting time. Your choice to join the military and deploy will dramatically impact your current parenting time arrangement and likely end up with the other parent having the majority of the parenting time. You can not delegate or proxy your parenting time to a spouse, parent, sibling, etc. So, your ex-wife will be in excellent position to take your son away from you by you joining the military. So, you need to seriously consider whether the career change is worth it. Your son needs you. Yes, being in the military is admirable. However, you can't beat being a great parent and role model to your son.
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I agree with attorney Leroi. While service in the military is important, your current spouse has no rights in regard to your son. Good luck to you all.
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