You should hire an attorney, he can present evidence, but he cannot speak as a witness. It is best if you can appear. If your family member is just going to repeat what you told the family member, it is very likely their testimony will not be admitted.
On what the judge will do, that requires more facts and no attorney will claim to know exactly what a judge will do.Ask a similar question
Your question has no relation to the facts presented; if you didn't return the security deposit within 30 days (or provide the tenant with a written account of charges you applied to the deposit) then the tenant can sue for 2x the security deposit.
Your other issues are potentially actionable, but have no bearing on whether you may or may not have violated the Rent Security Deposit act.
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NJ Statutes require that you return the security deposit within 30 days of vacatur or provide written notification certified mail as to the damages. You may be liable for 2X because you did not provide the tenant with the notice. You cannot have another person represent you. You will have to hire an attorney who can represent you if you cannot appear.Ask a similar question