he stalks me and harasses me, he only want to be in the baby's life because it's another way of him being in my life and will use the baby as a way of making me suffer an to continue to abuse me mentally, verbally and emotionally. He is mentally and emotionally unstable! I avoid contact with him as much as possible, and he says that in 8 months when i deliver my baby he will go and ask for a dna test and visitation of full custody of my baby. I will not tell him my baby's name or let him know when i deliver so that he wont have any information to use in order to get a paternity test taking. I don't want to have an abortion just so that he can stay out my life...but i am so confused and desperate. is there anything i can do?
It sounds like the man is a creep, and it's time for you to go to the police. Have him cited for harassment, get a PFA, and keep him out of your life that way.
Unfortunately, from the title of your post, it sounds as if you believe that he likely is the child's biological father. While you could certainly refuse to perform a paternity test yourself, a court may ultimately order one and, if your suspicions are correct, he will be in a position to argue for a degree of custody and/or visitation rights. If you really are being stalked and harassed, however, a family court should not be willing to give him those rights. That's why it's so important to document what's going on now by going to the police and to the courts.
There are a lot of issues that are going to be coming up for you and your baby in the next few months: obviously you've raised the issue of custody, but a second issue is whether you will need to pursue child-support from the father?
I strongly suggest that you sit down with a family-law attorney now and formulate a strategy of how best to work through the next few months and lay the groundwork for future battles. It should only take an hour, which will be inexpensive or possibly even free. Then you won't be "confused and desperate" any more and, instead, will be well-prepared to meet the future challenges.
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Unfortunately, in PA a man claiming to be the father of a child may make a claim of paternity. The man needs to complete the child’s information section, the child’s birthplace information section, the mother’s name, and the father’s information section on the Acknowledgment of Paternity form. This allows the man to be notified of certain legal proceedings about the child, but does not give him any parental rights. If the man wants parental rights, he may go to the DRS and request genetic testing.
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