married 26 yrs: 18 yr old.son home from college-husband buys him alcohol;has started smoking with him, and does/says nothing to discourage him; husband verbally abusive ,drinks every day.Have asked for divorce many times-he's more into" appearances". I can't take the craziness anymore. He (still) refuses counseling
I am a cancer survivor. I have ethics and morals. I (we) are new empty-nesters.
The kids were a great focus-pretty much raised them alone,in spite of being married. I am laid off 3 years now-monies I made went to the kids needs.
I don't condone any of this behavior-but feel ganged-up on,mostly due to my husband-and his lying and lack of standards.So much more to tell. He has been such a terrible example to my son, who I believe is still "salvegable".
Can anyone please adviseHe is mentally and occasionally physically threatening-I have turned around to catch him smirking after one of his terrible displays (twice) I think he uses tactics on me that he learned when he was in the service.His working from home these past 5 years have only inflamed the situation-allowing him to drink all day, then come out and rear his ugly head. My son needs a Dad, not a pal.I think he's missing a few brain cells. I really have no one to turn to. He is a very good faker. Thank you.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Filing for divorce in New Hampshire is not terribly complex, but there are a variety of legal issues that you will want to discuss with your attorney. It sounds like the most important thing here is to think about the marital home and potentially alimony. I am a divorce attorney with offices in Concord and Portsmouth. I would be happy to offer you a consultation. My number is 603-223-6613, ext. 22.
Chris Buck, Esq.
J. Miller & Associates, PLLC
91-A N. State St.
Concord, NH 03301
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Sorry to hear about your situation. You have some complex issues involving your divorce. A consultation with an attorney will be extremely helpful for you. You are potentially looking at fault based grounds for divorce, alimony and division or property issues. There is some troubling behavior that you've described. You should seek some help immediately. I have an office in Brentwood, close to the Courthouse, and would be happy to offer you a free initial consultation. Please give my office a call if you're interested. Thanks and good luck.
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321 Route 125
Brentwood, NH 03833
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You have received some good advice from the two previous answers. The only help that I can add is that if you feel in danger or if you feel that your property is in danger due to actions of your husband, you may be able to obtain a domestic violence order for protection immediately. My office is in Hampstead. 603-329-5200.
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