So, your boyfriend fathered a child, paternity has been established, and he has been ordered to support the child. Why should he be excused from that obligation? Children deserve the support of two parents (not to mention guidance and parenting, but sometimes support is the most a court can compel). It is the right of the child to be supported. Most state support enforcement agencies and judges agree that one parent does not have the right to excuse payment. Nor will a court reduce the obligation of a parent who has the ability to pay. If the law were otherwise our courts would be swamped with such requests of legions of deadbeats. The taxpayers already have enough children to support.
Best wishes for a more mature understanding of parental obligations, and please remember to designate a best answer.
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So you know, there's something wrong with the way the comments post here--you cannot tell when your comment has been submitted--it's not just you. Ms. Sinclair is correct--he is not going to be taken off child support once he's been put on, it just doesn't work that way. The options there are pretty much waiting for the child to graduate from high school or getting custody of the child himself. Also, you're not going to be able to put his child on your insurance--your own child with him would be eligible under your insurance plan, but his child with this other woman would not. Legally, that child is the equivalent of the next door neughbor's kid--you may see him a lot, you may like him, you my even have him over, but there's no legal relationship there, and if you try to claim him on your insurance as being your child, you will be in for a world of hurt when they find out.