I think you may have a real problem. Did you ask the JAG why the USAF wouldn't recognize the "divorce"? I've got some ideas but they are too technical to explain here; generally having to to with jurisdiction and due process. I suggest you contact a family lawyer in Abilene and start over with the divorce process.
I am not intending this to be legal advice, because I don't know the particulars of your situation. Call me if you would like to discuss this or other isues.
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