I am retired military and just recently retired from federal civil service. In 2008 my wife left me and moved to California where she worked as a clinical Psychologist. Sometime in 2014 (I think), she moved back to Germany as she has dual citizenship. I have had limited contact with her in these 10 years and have not seen her in all this time. I have decided that I want to end the marriage. We have no children and no mutual assets. I only have my pensions from federal service. I have an address that she gave me 3 years ago, but I’m not sure if it’s current. What’s my first step. I know I’m going to need help with this and would appreciate your help. Thank you.
Hire an attorney in your county. Divorce of someone over seas is possible.
If you unable to locate her, then you might be able to publish notice of the divorce. You will need to find an attorney that you are comfortable working with and then allow them to handle the details.
Your first step is to hire a lawyer. You also want to try and find her. the fastest cheapest divorce is one where she is found, signs and agrees.
Divorcing a foreign national overseas, if she won't consent, presents questions of international service that can be expensive and difficult. Note that she CAN make a claim on your pensions (all of both of your assets and debts can be divided, should either of you seek that). In rare circumstances service by publication is possible, but a diligent search must fail for that to happen, and your post indicates that search has not yet happened.
Again, finding her may be the best news of the process.
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