I am divorcing a manipulative NCP. His lawyer is very aggressive and I am now on my second lawyer who seems irritated and often delays response and tactics, seemingly as a way to avoid my case. There has been over 100 email exchanges and 2 court dates with no progress.
Would having a 3rd lawyer in the span of 16 months have a negative impact? What’s the average time a reply is expected from an attorney that is pressing: enforcing orders, child support modification, etc?
Your case sounds like a very difficult case.
These are my thoughts on a high conflict situatuion.
1. Frequently, the costs become so high that one or both parties ended up unrepresented.
2. It is not always cost effective or prudent to respond to every single incident, especially with custody issues.
3. Frequently, the party with better financing, or the one more vindictive (narcissist, borderline personality disorder, psychopath) will deliberately run up attorney fees in order to legally abuse you and financially break you.
4. If you have sent over 100 emails, you are probably blowing through your entire retainer for nothing.
5. Often, clients that have chronic complaints/emails on a daily basis become mind numbing for the attorney trying to deal with them.
6. Often, it is better to be working with a therapist on these issues, rather than sending 100 emails. It can be more productive to work with a therapist, than the attorney.
7. The court does take notice of a litigant that has had a number of attorneys, and my opinion is it does make it look like the litigant is difficult or hard to get along with.
8. Attorneys get traumatized by these difficult cases, as well as the litigants, and that can cause an attorney to appear irritated.
9. Attorneys do tend to start avoiding the cases that are non-stop conflict, or more importantly, a client that is never, ever happy with them.
Suggestions; limit emails to no more than 1 time per week. DO NOT send a 4 page email, single spaced. Limit emails to no more than a few issues, and a few paragraphs. Keep a long of violations of orders, but understand, that for the most part, the court will not do much unless really egregious.
Please note that this answer does not constitute legal advice, and should not be relied on, as each situation is fact specific, and it is not possible to evaluate a legal problem without a comprehensive consultation and review of all the facts and court pleadings filed in the case. This answer does not create an attorney-client relationship.
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