You likely can hire an attorney and force probate open and force the executor to produce the will. The cost of this would often be out of your pocket. There is no set time limit for when probate must be open or distribution complete.
You should repost this summary using Ohio as a location, in order to get responses from Ohio attorneys. Many attorneys subscribe to questions posted only in their state.
Many states have laws that allow any interested party to petition for probate if the nominated personal representative (executor) does not act within a certain period of time. You should consult with an Ohio probate attorney to determine what your rights are and how best to proceed. It sounds like if you continue to wait for this person to free up their schedule, you may end up waiting for quite some time. Probate matters do not generally improve with age.
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In our state we would file a Petition to require administration. This would force them to file the will and open the estate within a finite time or you as an heir could open the estate.
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I agree with the other lawyers. It is suspicious when this type of thing happens. It may be a way to avoid claims of creditors [at least that sometimes happens in Tennessee] or to give someone time to loot the estate. "Busy" is not likely to be an honest answer.