To begin with my ex never wanted me to give birth. He had minimal involvement during the pregnancy and even though he has paid paternity leave, he didn't take one day off when the baby was born. He would come to my house a couple days a week to see the baby and I spent almost every weekend during my maternity leave. He's been to maybe 5 out of 20 doctor's appointments. He has been a long time marijuana user and actually purchased it with me and the baby in the car, even after I asked him to bring us home first The one time that I left the baby alone with him, he left our then 4 month old in the room while he got high in the bathroom. I have never left our son alone with him since. Just a month ago we went to dinner, he had 3 drinks in less than an hour and insisted on driving me and baby.
From what you have told me, you could probably get joint custody with him having supervised visits. If you can prove that he is a drug user then you may even get sole custody. You would need to contact an attorney and file a Motion for Sole Custody listing the reasons why you would want sole custody.
Joint legal custody is the outcome in most custody cases, unless one party can be shown to be likely to harm or endanger the child. There is really no such thing as "joint physical custody," but you are probably talking about "shared physical custody," which is favored more by some judges than others. There is no real way to gauge the likelihood of your ex being granted specific periods of physical custody without knowing all the facts which can be proven in court, but, by hiring an experienced attorney, you will be better able to present your concerns about the child's safety, welfare, and best interest to the court.
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