I doubt a NY lawyer can give you a meaningful answer. I suggest you re-post this in the Maine Avvo section. I suggest you be careful how you act so you don't incur personal liability.
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This area of law is especially state and even locally specific. Since estate recovery is a hot issue due to budget cutbacks, I suggest you consult with a Maine estates &/or elder law attorney, even though the estate is small. You might try a member of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (NAELA) who handles estate recovery issues.
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My colleagues are correct. Your most prudent course of action is to speak with a probate or elder law attorney in Maine. The laws regarding recovery are unique to each state. You need to be careful how you proceed so that you do not create personal liability for yourself. Good luck.
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