Its permanent, Im happy with it but I know he isn't. We don't get along for the most part but I stick to our agreement as best as I can. He finds ways to try to provoke me but I do my best to keep it together.
You may change any order by consent at any time. However, since it sounds like you want it to stay how it is and he may try to change it I will answer as if the two parties do not agree. Though an order states that it is "permanent" it is never really permanent and can always be modified by showing a "substantial change in circumstances". Case law gives guidance that the usual gauge for a "substantial change" is three years as children's needs change substantially as they grow. You may always try to show a "substantial change" before, or after, three years but the reason(s) must convince the judge that it rises to a "substantial change" notwithstanding the minimal time that has past. If you are fine with the order then hold off talking to an attorney about changing the order until he files a motion to modify.
If you are following the order and he is purposefully breaking provisions then perhaps a motion for contempt is appropriate. For a motion for contempt he must be breaking specific provisions in the consent order- if you think he is and want to do something about it perhaps talk to an attorney about contempt instead of modification.
This answer in no way creates an attorney-client relationship. I am only licensed to practice law in North Carolina. My answers are general in nature given the public forum and would likely be swayed if all the relevant facts were disclosed.
In order to modify an Order, there has to be a substantial change of circumstances and if the parties signed a Consent Order, there cannot truly be a substantial change of circumstances because there are no Findings of Facts outlined in the papers as to what the "circumstances" were at the time of the Order.
Therefore, a Judge can just hear a full on custody action and not require a substantial change of circumstances because there was no previous trial where the Judge said x y or z about a situation.
However, if the parties have operated under a Consent Order for a period of time, a Judge will probably want to see that something is affecting the best interests of the child before they will modify the Order.
The best advice is to take the high road and not engage in arguments with him because if a judge thereafter deems the case to be high conflict, they may consider that grounds to modify the Consent Order.
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