It's usually very difficult. She would have to prove a serious change in circumstances. It really wouldn't be enough to show that she has stabilized. She would have to overcome the evidence that she hasn't provided for the child emotionally or materially; that she hasn't visited regularly, and that the child is presumably thriving in her current environment. In short, her talk regarding custody for now is just that, talk. If she serves papers moving for a change in custody then get an attorney.
With the facts as you've laid them out about here, I do not believe there is any way the mom will get custody back yet. The law is that she must show a change in circumstances since the last Order was entered. Getting a home may be considered a change but I do not believe it to be sufficient to warrant a change. Often parents will threaten court action in hopes you'll do what they want so you don't have to go to court. I would suggest you wait to see if she ever files anything and if she does she must serve your fiance' with whatever she files. Then you need to take it to an attorney. Good luck.
I agree with Ms. Cole. Under these circumstances I do not believe the court would grant a motion for change of custody.
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