"Without having to hire a lawyer . . . ?" Why would he want to try to do this without a lawyer? We're talking about his CHILD, here. Had he worked with a lawyer in the past, he'd have custody now -- instantly upon Mom's demise (my condolences).
Tell him that instead of having you flail about online trying to figure out how to handle what will probably be the biggest legal event of his and his child's lives, he should just pick up the phone, make a few calls, and hire a lawyer to get the job done . . . RIGHT.
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This question is too complex for this Q&A forum. Yuo do need to consult wth a family law lawyer. There are too many missing facts to give you any answers. We don't even know if you were married? Divorced? Paternity established by you? Age of child? How long is child with you? You must go in and consult with a lawyer in person.
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