You are really not asking a legal question, but a parenting/therapist question. Your children should not have to hear lies about you from their father. They are entitled to learn the truth. How best to tell them the truth is something to be discussed with a therapist, not a lawyer online or in person.
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You can't. But that kind of thing can affect custody and visitation determinations.
However: telling them that you want to protect them from him is also a potential negative...
You should consult with a family law attorney about your situation, and be very careful as to what *you* say to the children.
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