my fiance and I are expecting a child, currently he is paying between $800-$1000 a month in child support. The mother of his four girls has sent him endless amounts of threats, inappropriate messages, and photos of his children in the arms of several different men informing him that these men are who they call daddy. She has recently told him that she not only doesn't need his money, but she is going to tell the girls he died or doesn't want them. She already has full custody as we were unable to make the trip to Ohio in time for the court hearing. Giving them up is the last thing he wants to do, but financially she is bleeding us dry, and emotionally she is killing him. We don't have the money to fight for custody, what can we do? She acts like they are tools to milk the cash cow.
Unfortunately you cannot unilaterally terminate your parental rights. You can't just walk away from your responsibility. However, if the mother attempts to terminate his rights then he can agree to do so and not contest the action. Good luck.
I agree with Mr. Schwartz. I'd just like to add that your fiancé should consider consulting with an Ohio family law attorney about whether or not you can modify custody and/or child support. You can use the Find a Lawyer feature at the top of the page to find experienced family law attorneys in that part of Ohio, and many family law attorneys offer free consultations.
I would recommend that he work on figuring out what he can do to help the situation rather than try to throw up his hands and give up his daughters. As a parent I find the thought of that heartbreaking, especially since you say that it is not what he wants to do.
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This is not really about your fiance's relationship with the mother of his children; this is about your fiance's relationship with his four children. He has a duty to support his children, as he is the father. He also has the right to visit with the children, and if the mother interferes with those rights, she can be cited for contempt in Ohio. She can also be cited for contempt if she tells the children lies about their father, and chooses to play mind games with the children in an unconscionable way. If your fiance skates away from his parental responsibilities concerning his girls, he will regret it the rest of his life. He should not only pay the support if he can afford it, he should also save up enough funds to employ counsel to represent him in Ohio. If he cannot afford the support payments on his current income, he should file for a modification of his support payments in Ohio. Surrendering parental rights to four minor children is very rarely done. Some things in life are simply worth the sacrifice, and four children should not be given up merely for convenience. Your fiance should get some legal advice from a family lawyer in Ohio.
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