Wow, this is such a tough situation for you. First and most importantly, who has the actual possession of this document. If you have it, then she can not revoke it by destroying it. Secondly, she could revoke it by drafting a new one or executing a revocation. However, in light of her condition, such latter actions would seem to be of questionable legal validity. It sounds as though she is mad or acting irrationally based on her condition. So as long as you have the current DPOA safely secured you should be all right legally. But this is a horrible situation otherwise for you, so try to remain the good son that you obviously are trying to be. Best of luck to you.
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A durable power of attorney is often revoked when the principal (your mother in this case) signs a new durble power of attorney, stating that she expressly revokes the prior one. Also, your mother could go to third party insitutions such as her bank and inform them that she has revoked your power. It is possible that in your mother's case, her mental state is such that she lacks the capacity to revoke her power of attorney.