My father in law is in the hospital with congestive heart failure. He is almost 82 years old and has the beginnings of dementia. We have a durable POA for him, but to the hospital staff he appears to be very alert and able to make his own decisions. What they don’t realize is that he may make a decision, but 10 minutes later will not remember making it. He has been there since Friday, yet told the doctor he had already been there a week. When my husband went to visit the yesterday he found out that they had replaced his defibrillator and no one even notified any of us! They told us that Dad said he would call us. However, no one followed up to make sure he had (he didn’t even have a phone in his room, nor his cell phone so how was he to call anyone?) so he never called any of us. In Dad’s hearing, they said they had expected that someone would have been there for the procedure, and Dad said he thought so, too. My husband replied, “Well we would have been if we knew it was happening!” We are completely appalled that this could have happened! This is only one example of what has gone on – at the hospital, and at home -- and it is obvious that Dad cannot make his own decisions. My question is this:
How do we “prove” to the hospital that we need to be the ones making the decisions, thus enforcing the POA (a copy of which they have on hand!)?