You're going to have a very difficult time trying to handle this without an attorney and should seek help through any legal clinic or court sponsored program available in your county. You need to seek to modify the judgment, ASAP.
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My colleagues are correct, (1) why did you wait 3 years to find your child? and (2) you need to file a motion to modify final judgment. It is important to at least get in front of the judge to discuss your issues. There are jurisdictional issues that may arise regarding the child since he has been in Alaska for 3 years. If you could find a way at all to retain counsel it would be in your best interest. There are a lot of issues in this case.
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