I have spent the past 40 yrs being manipulated and emotionally abused and threatened by her. I am still young enough (61) and strong enough both physically and emotionally to protect myself from her but I do not want her to have any say in what happens to me (physical care, welfare, financial decisions etc. ) in the future. So far I have managed to shut her out of my life but I want some protection from her in yrs to come. Thank you for any help you may be able to offer on this perplexing question.